Within each of us there is a masculine and feminine essence. We are all to be living our lives from one or the other, but different things that happen along our journey can impact which of these are the dominant essence. In this episode, Dale answers questions about these essences, as well as giving an explanation of the fabricated shell that we are able to create over time that protects us but can also change our dominant essence.
[00:00:01] It's time for Ask Dale Anything, the show that answers your most perplexing questions with profound answers from one of the top
[00:00:10] transformational teachers and leaders on the planet, Dale Halaway.
[00:00:13] I'm your host, Mickey Manning, Dale's left-hand person as I like to call it, and I've never heard a question that he can't answer.
[00:00:22] He's been doing this for over 40 years now, and he truly has an answer that's profound and helpful on any topic.
[00:00:29] So with that, let's get into today's question.
[00:00:35] So, Dale, I have a very interesting question from Sharon, and I've actually got several questions I'm going to be presenting to you on the topic of masculine and feminine.
[00:00:48] So we're going to jump right in with this first one. And this question from Sharon is, is imagination feminine or masculine?
[00:00:57] It's more feminine.
[00:00:59] And so can you describe just a little bit? Like the next question is what about creativity? And can you give us a breakdown of the masculine and feminine for those that aren't really in the know of the differentiating between these?
[00:01:14] Can you just give us an overall explanation of the masculine and feminine within us?
[00:01:19] Yeah, so the masculine is more the logical, sequential, strategic action-oriented side of us.
[00:01:30] The feminine is the more creative, spontaneous, inflow receptive side of us.
[00:01:43] And so if someone were to naturally, say they were supposed to be more feminine, but different experiences in life caused them to really become very hardened, then can you describe what can happen to that person and why that happens?
[00:02:04] How that, I know you teach on the fabricated shell and how we're leading with a different part of us. Can you kind of give us a breakdown of what that is for someone who's not familiar with your teachings?
[00:02:15] Yeah, you know, it's pretty easy to spot actually whether you're familiar with my teachings or not.
[00:02:23] You know, in our world, especially in this era that we've now entered into this newer era,
[00:02:29] you know, you see men who are becoming more feminized
[00:02:36] and you see women who are becoming more masculized where women are becoming more masculine in their approach.
[00:02:45] Not all women, of course, but just in general.
[00:02:49] And then you see men who are becoming more feminine in their approach.
[00:02:55] Yeah.
[00:02:57] If we look at the whole transgender movement, that's what's happening in the transgender movement.
[00:03:05] You have and it's now a movement. It's no longer just a thing on hit and miss like it maybe was 20 years ago.
[00:03:15] Today it's become a global movement.
[00:03:19] So now that's on transgenderism.
[00:03:23] But on a much deeper level, it's happening. You know, you have two people that come together and we'll say it is a man and a woman.
[00:03:33] I mean, it could be two men, could be two women as well, of course.
[00:03:37] But let's say it's a man and a woman just to keep it, I suppose, clear in terms of how I'm presenting this for today.
[00:03:45] But a man and woman come together and the man leans more towards his feminine nature and the woman leads more towards her masculine nature.
[00:03:57] And then the woman at some point starts to heal and grow.
[00:04:03] She starts to transform herself and she gets reconnected with more or less her feminine side.
[00:04:10] And she becomes aware that she doesn't want to lead her life so much with her masculine side anymore.
[00:04:16] She doesn't want to do away with the masculine. She knows the masculine has its purpose in her world.
[00:04:21] But for the most part, she wants to become more feminine.
[00:04:26] She's in a woman's body and she wants to become more that woman, that full on mature embodied woman that perhaps leads with her feminine essence or at the core of her essence is that feminine essence even though she has a nice balanced masculine side as well.
[00:04:46] But she's in a relationship with her guy and her guy is the furthest thing away from being masculine.
[00:04:55] He leans a lot more into his feminine side and where he has a difficult time doing things.
[00:05:04] He has a difficult time following through on things.
[00:05:06] He has a difficult time manifesting things.
[00:05:11] He has a difficult time, let's say he's an entrepreneur or he's a professional salesperson.
[00:05:16] He has a difficult time following through on the practices, the disciplines he needs to do for his business or for his sales career or for his job.
[00:05:27] Because he's more feminine or more feminized, he still has a physical male frame, but he's more feminized in the way that he's living his life.
[00:05:39] You could say he's lost touch with his masculine side.
[00:05:43] Heck, I was working with a group of people not long ago and the whole discussion went to this place of men are...
[00:05:53] Now this is like a general sense now.
[00:05:57] Men are having a more difficult time even knowing how to be as a man in the presence of the woman that he or she is with or that he is with or either wants to be with.
[00:06:11] In other words, they don't know how to be.
[00:06:13] Something's clearly happened here and what's happened is at some point we made this shift.
[00:06:20] And perhaps that's right around the time when the transgender energetic came upon us as a humanity a few decades ago.
[00:06:31] Maybe that's when this all occurred, but clearly something's happened where men in general aren't even sure anymore how to be men.
[00:06:43] And we could maybe say the same thing even with women.
[00:06:47] There's some women that aren't even sure how to be a woman anymore.
[00:06:50] She's so far into her masculine side or he's so far into his feminine side and therefore the man is not really being the man as in a healthier man, a balanced man, a conscious man.
[00:07:05] And he might be more into the video games and surfing the internet or just all these other activities that keeps him disconnected from his masculine side.
[00:07:23] And she on the other hand could be so caught up in her career or so caught up in the finances, so caught up in the more masculine type things that she doesn't even know who she is anymore as a woman.
[00:07:37] As in the feminine inside of her.
[00:07:40] And so, if these two people are now together.
[00:07:44] He's doing his video games and surfing the internet at night and so on and so forth.
[00:07:49] And not really engaged in some form of discipline you know when you're in the presence of a real healthy well balanced man.
[00:07:58] You're using the presence of someone who's well disciplined.
[00:08:02] And more specifically when he says he's going to do something you can go to the bank on it.
[00:08:07] He's going to do it he's going to follow, he's going to follow through and what he said he's going to do.
[00:08:13] She when she's really in her power.
[00:08:16] And let's say her power is this feminine essence coupled with that balance masculine of hers or the masculine that's now been balanced out within her feminine essence.
[00:08:27] And from her perspective, when she's in that place she's she's softer.
[00:08:33] She's more in flow.
[00:08:35] She's more intuitive.
[00:08:38] She's definitely more creative.
[00:08:40] She's more spontaneous and it comes natural to her very natural to her.
[00:08:46] She can be incredibly nurturing and very colorful, you know the way she dresses the way she presents herself very much into color and beauty and so on and so forth.
[00:09:01] Whereas he if he's in his healthy masculine, then you know he could also dress, you know rather nicely as well or not he could also have you know where pair of jeans where his holes in the neck.
[00:09:16] And he's in the knees of the jeans and he's a okay with it. And that's the key he's he's a okay with it.
[00:09:22] That does not affect his self esteem whatsoever. In fact, when he's really in his healthy masculine. He is also in his power.
[00:09:31] So when he walks in the room. Usually you know that a man has just walked in the room or a man with presence has just walked into the room.
[00:09:40] His presence is strong. It's non wavering. It's like an anchor. It's like a rock.
[00:09:48] Whereas her presence.
[00:09:51] Her presence again has more that softness. It has more that spontaneity again it has more that flow.
[00:10:01] Again very different energy. Then when you put that healthier masculine and you put that healthier masculine with a healthier feminine and vice versa.
[00:10:11] You know, there's now an arc of energies that happen that become just obvious to other people. And again, I mean this could be a gay relationship where it could be two men and one member within that gay relationship is really feminine.
[00:10:30] Even though it's in a male body but very feminine and all those qualities that all those qualities I just highlighted that he as in the feminine possesses and expresses full on.
[00:10:44] And he's in a relationship with another man and that other man is can also be that healthy very powerful strong steady masculine as well.
[00:10:54] And then the two of them in that gay relationship they create this arc as well. That can become quite dynamic and vibrant and radiant.
[00:11:04] And so women can create this if they're in a gay or lesbian relationship with two women. And then of course a man and a woman can create this when when they're together.
[00:11:13] You can create this also in business. You can have employee and employer, you can have a father and a daughter, you can have a mother and a son.
[00:11:24] This is not exclusive to having to be in a love relationship far from it. What I'm talking about right now, not at all.
[00:11:35] This can happen in any type of relationship including you could have a relationship with you and your pet where that arc is created. And it's not and again the arc when it's there.
[00:11:49] So on a romantic level then obviously that's where you know it's going to be sexual intimacy and so and so forth.
[00:11:55] But if it's not a romantic level in other words as a best friendship, or it's again it's a father daughter relationship or it's an employer employee relationship or two co workers or again I could give all there's so many examples of this.
[00:12:08] But when it's present.
[00:12:11] Everybody else around these two people will know it.
[00:12:14] Because there'll be this energy flow.
[00:12:18] That's just a nice thing. It's a nice thing to watch. It's a nice thing to feel when these two people have this, but now in order to have this.
[00:12:29] It's also paramount that these two people know who they are.
[00:12:37] They know that they are say the feminists and or they know they are the masculine essence, because if you don't know that yet.
[00:12:49] Then there can be a competition.
[00:12:52] Then there can be a competition or a conflict. And not that that's a bad thing.
[00:12:57] Just an is things so to speak but that's how that'll play out there will be some kind of a competition it'll go on between these two individuals.
[00:13:07] And of course what's really happening. That's going on inside the individual themselves. So if I'm not yet clear on what really is my essence.
[00:13:18] And I've made peace with that.
[00:13:20] Just yet, then doesn't make me a bad person, but in that, and I'm experiencing some kind of internal conflict.
[00:13:29] There's going to be some kind of internal competition that goes on within me between both my masculine and feminine side or feminine masculine side.
[00:13:39] You know, I think this is a great thing that you bring up because we are seeing a lot of people that have.
[00:13:47] Maybe there is some clarity there and whether they want to be a man with a man a woman with a woman, you know, whatever.
[00:13:54] I think it's great if they're certain but I do think because of this societal pressure that we're seeing there's a lot of confusion.
[00:14:03] And when you touched on men not being sure how to be men that really made me think about some relationships, some conversations I was having recently and some relationships that I have where we were discussing this and one person in particular
[00:14:21] was a fear of showing not wanting to show how masculine they were, because they were being encouraged to present themselves as gay or bisexual.
[00:14:35] So as not to be ostracized by other people that they knew so you know he's being encouraged to shut down his masculine and present himself as gay and he, but you know this is something that's happening by his peers and he
[00:14:50] doesn't necessarily want to do this but he feels a lot of pressure to do it. So I was thinking of the times where like when I was younger, I had a friend whose dad came out when you know she was like a teenager and told the whole family he was gay and he left the family
[00:15:05] you know so we're seeing this kind of in reverse now where at one time men were suppressed to have a family and have a wife and present as straight. And they ended up being, you know they were gay but they had this family and lived this false life and so now we're
[00:15:20] seeing this kind of in reverse where there are people that are in gay relationships who might truly be straight. And so I think there's like this whole reversal that we're seeing and it's at the same time is it's fascinating, it's kind of confusing, and I really feel for anybody who can't
[00:15:41] who isn't clear on that. So I guess my biggest question here is, what's the best way for someone who's really having that inner conflict that's having a hard time presenting to the world as what they truly feel they are meant to be?
[00:15:55] What's the best way for them to find that strength within themselves to stand up and pursue whatever it is that's going to give them the happiest life possible?
[00:16:06] Well, that's a awesome question. But it's a question that you know I could go on for days to answer quite frankly.
[00:16:15] I'm sure.
[00:16:16] In fact, one of our courses online called return to wholeness, you know, we spend a good amount of time answering this question. And it's a, you know, 10 hour long course so
[00:16:31] there's a lot here. There's a lot to unpack here. We've got, you know, the world, our humanity, let me rephrase, our humanity, there's like a cloud of confusion that's been injected into our consciousness as humanity around
[00:16:52] messing up our gender, quite frankly.
[00:16:56] Another conversation, perhaps for another time.
[00:17:00] But I want to start off by saying there is something that's happened with our humanity on purpose.
[00:17:08] You could say a program's been installed or injected into the consciousness of humanity to really create a massive cloud of confusion around our gender, around our sexuality and around our essence.
[00:17:28] Now is this the work of our soul or the collective soul? Of course not.
[00:17:33] Not at all.
[00:17:34] But you got to understand where you are. We got to understand where we are. We're in a 3D world.
[00:17:41] So some of us have come from a 5D world or a 7D world or a 9D world, or even above or beyond. And so it's really important that we make contact with where we are right now in current time here in this present reality
[00:17:59] of this 3D world. And so in this, you know, you're working with some stuff here.
[00:18:09] You're working with at least one of a couple of things. One is, in light of what I just alluded to, as in somewhere along the way, someone or something injected a program, I'll keep it as simple as possible,
[00:18:24] and then we'll put a program into our humanity that would purposely then create conflict within the masculine feminine properties here in this 3D world on planet Earth.
[00:18:39] So there's that, and that we could explore for another day. We're not going to but we easily could.
[00:18:45] That's one. The other is what's going on inside of us. What's going on inside of us and what went on in our earlier part of this life mean our own individual lifetime here with regard to our own masculinity and or femininity, where we at.
[00:19:06] So when, when we're comfortable in our own skin with ourselves as either a man or woman or whatever that might be, meaning we could be a woman but we're more comfortable in the masculine energy and a woman's body are we could be a man and are more comfortable in the feminine
[00:19:23] energy and a man's body. Or we're in a man's body we're more comfortable in that masculine energy, or we're in a women's body we're more comfortable in that feminine energy.
[00:19:34] Whatever that is, that's something that we all on individual level have got to unpack.
[00:19:42] Maybe you already know the answer to this and it's very clear to you and if you do, then
[00:19:46] you're one of the lucky ones right now on this planet, no doubt about it.
[00:19:50] If you don't know this yet, then you can easily be toyed with.
[00:19:57] So now if we go to the person that you were eluding to, Mickey, and you were talking
[00:20:01] about the social pressure where the social group that he's a part of is putting this pressure
[00:20:09] on him that he should be gay.
[00:20:11] Right?
[00:20:12] Well, here's how it goes is when you know who you are at the level that we're speaking
[00:20:20] of right now and you know this and you become comfortable in this knowing in that of your
[00:20:24] own skin, then there is no group on this planet that would ever be able to put pressure
[00:20:32] on you again and have it stick ever.
[00:20:39] In fact, what more than likely will happen when you're in that place, one of two things.
[00:20:46] This group that normally puts pressure on people says you should be gay.
[00:20:51] That group will either find a new way to like you and they will look up to you and
[00:20:58] they will respect you and they'll befriend you not from a gaze perspective because
[00:21:01] they'll recognize you're a man in a man's body.
[00:21:06] You're a masculine in a man's body or they'll discard you or you'll discard them, meaning
[00:21:16] you'll walk away.
[00:21:18] They'll rather walk away from you or you'll walk away from them and you'll be okay with
[00:21:21] it because you'll get that there's not a resonance there.
[00:21:25] There's not a resonance that exists there for you.
[00:21:29] If it's a work environment, then you then you rise up to why am I here?
[00:21:34] Am I here for them or am I here for my career?
[00:21:39] As long as your relationship with your boss and your immediate, immediate co-workers
[00:21:45] are sound and solid, you can stay there for as long as you want even though the rest
[00:21:49] of the environment will say is filled with other gay people and they're attempting
[00:21:54] to put this pressure on you.
[00:21:56] Well again, if you really know that you are more masculine in a male body, then that will
[00:22:06] not have an effect on you.
[00:22:08] It only has an effect on you when you still don't yet know or you're just not comfortable
[00:22:17] in your own skin yet.
[00:22:19] That's when you can be played with and quite frankly for the most part, that's
[00:22:24] when you'll more than likely be played with.
[00:22:27] If not now, it becomes a question of time.
[00:22:30] Why?
[00:22:31] Because on the planet there's this big, big confusion going on that started about 25,
[00:22:37] 30 years ago, maybe most certainly 20 years ago and it's just been growing ever since.
[00:22:43] Again it's that movement that I alluded to at the opening part of today's show.
[00:22:48] That movement now has got legs underneath it and so it's moving in that direction
[00:22:53] and more than likely will continue on moving that direction for at least some time.
[00:22:57] So to uncover who you are, that is a loaded question because if we look at Socrates or
[00:23:06] any master who's gone before us or philosopher who's gone before us has literally made this
[00:23:11] a lifelong study.
[00:23:14] It's taken them much time to uncover this with inside themselves and so doesn't
[00:23:20] say it's going to have to take us entire lifetime, but it probably takes a little while.
[00:23:25] And so one of the things you can do is if you're with a bunch of gay people and it just
[00:23:33] doesn't feel right.
[00:23:34] But yeah, you're still not sure.
[00:23:37] Then what you want to do is you want to purposely find somebody in your world and
[00:23:43] you could do this through a prayer.
[00:23:44] You could do this through an intent as an intention where you set an intention
[00:23:49] or you offer you offer up a prayer that goes something like this.
[00:23:55] God universe spirit.
[00:23:57] Bring someone into my life.
[00:24:01] That's a well balanced masculine man.
[00:24:05] To serve as an example for me to serve as some kind of a role model for me.
[00:24:13] Now, I'm still not sure whether or not I'm really to be that masculine man just yet.
[00:24:18] But if I had somebody like that in my world, it would create enough contrast for me.
[00:24:24] To where when I'm in his presence, it'll let me feel into my own presence to see if
[00:24:32] wow, does this feel good to me?
[00:24:33] Does this feel right to me?
[00:24:35] And if it does hang out with him on purpose, hang out with him.
[00:24:40] That's the power of somebody exemplifying the direction that we're really to be moving in.
[00:24:48] If, on the other hand, you feel more of a resonance when you're hanging out with those
[00:24:52] gay men or gay guys, then that's probably highlighting at the very least something
[00:24:58] for you to explore because it's a resonance there.
[00:25:02] If there's no resonance there, in other words, if it feels like wow, this is kind
[00:25:06] of like somebody running their fingertips along the side of it or down
[00:25:11] a down a chalkboard, right?
[00:25:14] In other words, it just doesn't feel right to me.
[00:25:16] Well, then pay attention to that.
[00:25:18] It's probably because it's not right for you.
[00:25:22] So but in that you can surrender a prayer, surrender a prayer up to the universe,
[00:25:28] to God, to the divine.
[00:25:30] You can set a clear intent, as I just suggested.
[00:25:35] And the same thing for, you know, a woman who's uncertain as to which
[00:25:40] direction she's to go in as well.
[00:25:42] So for her, you know, it would be really good to, again, if she is to pursue
[00:25:48] that and become more masculine in a woman's body, then find a group of women
[00:25:53] who have already become more masculine in a woman's body.
[00:25:56] And then see how that feels.
[00:25:58] See if that resonates with you.
[00:26:00] And if it does, then you're onto something.
[00:26:02] On the other hand, it doesn't.
[00:26:03] It's probably because that's not the right path for you.
[00:26:07] On the other hand, you also could offer up a prayer and ask for a real
[00:26:12] woman to show up in your world if you don't already have one,
[00:26:17] meaning a woman who's very clear that her essence is more feminine in nature.
[00:26:24] She's got a strong, healthy, masculine that she accesses, but her essence is
[00:26:29] more feminine and she's really engaged in her feminine.
[00:26:33] And she's she's embodying her feminine or maybe already has fully
[00:26:37] embodied her feminine.
[00:26:38] And you know it because when you're around her, that's what you feel.
[00:26:42] And in feeling that, if that's what resonates with you, then more than likely
[00:26:48] that's the direction that's what you're to be moving towards is finding a
[00:26:53] way and there is a way for us to really connect with that essence
[00:27:01] inside of us, whatever that essence is, and then begin to do the work
[00:27:06] that would be necessary to ultimately become more or less the embodiment
[00:27:10] of that essence where we become that, we become that to the point where
[00:27:15] it becomes so comfortable.
[00:27:17] So again, if it's a man where it's a masculine and a man's body, we
[00:27:21] become so comfortable as a man in our own body.
[00:27:27] We become so comfortable.
[00:27:29] If it's the feminine in a woman's body, we become so comfortable
[00:27:33] as a woman in a woman's body in that way.
[00:27:36] If we're gay, then it's either masculine or feminine.
[00:27:39] We become so comfortable in that energy of the feminine or that
[00:27:44] energy of the masculine in that of our own skin, not somebody else's skin,
[00:27:50] our skin.
[00:27:54] Well said, Dill.
[00:27:56] So now I just want to share with everybody what happened to me
[00:28:01] because I know a lot of people resonate with this when I talk
[00:28:03] about when I came in to work with you, how much I had shut down my feminine.
[00:28:10] And so I just want to take a minute to share that because this might
[00:28:13] really resonate with a lot of people.
[00:28:15] I know it definitely has when I've been in your classes before
[00:28:18] and I've talked about this.
[00:28:19] And so basically when we first started working together, I was so
[00:28:24] in my masculine, but it was because my feminine was so wounded
[00:28:28] and just completely like repressed and shut down.
[00:28:31] I mean, I remember saying I hadn't worn a dress in over 10 years.
[00:28:36] I couldn't even remember the last time I dressed up and looked feminine.
[00:28:41] You know, I was so like, I felt like I really needed to be tough
[00:28:45] and I needed to have this like layer of like kind of grit,
[00:28:49] like don't mess with me, you know, because I had been so
[00:28:55] emotionally traumatized and psychologically, you know, spiritually.
[00:28:59] And I guess I would say from choices that I had made and the people
[00:29:03] that I'd surrounded myself with, that that was my way of protecting myself.
[00:29:08] And what you helped me uncover was that that wasn't I wasn't truly
[00:29:13] supposed to be masculine.
[00:29:15] It was just to protect myself.
[00:29:18] And over the five years of us working together, I have definitely
[00:29:23] I mean, people don't recognize me.
[00:29:24] It's funny because when I go back and I watch a video from
[00:29:27] when I was introducing you back then or doing something to, you know,
[00:29:29] share my story, I don't recognize myself.
[00:29:33] And what's weird about that time was that I don't even I didn't know
[00:29:39] that's where I was at.
[00:29:40] It was like, as you had explained, it was that fabricated shell,
[00:29:43] that heart and shell around me that I was presenting to the world.
[00:29:47] But it had become to me my truth at the time.
[00:29:52] It was a falsehood, but it was what my conscious self
[00:29:56] wanted me to believe.
[00:29:57] And, you know, that's where I've had been at for so long that it took
[00:30:00] a while to chip away at this exterior to get to the real me and to get
[00:30:05] to that softer feminine that had been stuffed down and buried
[00:30:10] for what I thought was my own safety or, you know, that that part
[00:30:14] of myself that did that, it was to protect me.
[00:30:17] But it really didn't do me any favors.
[00:30:19] And, you know, it created a lot of hardness in my world
[00:30:22] in different ways, because that wasn't the essence I was supposed
[00:30:26] to be leading my life with.
[00:30:27] And as I learned through your work and it returned a wholeness,
[00:30:30] that course being a huge influencing factor in really being
[00:30:35] able to chip away and to reveal who my true self was and that
[00:30:40] I was in fact, to be more feminine and that softer creative
[00:30:45] nurturing like I could still be creative, but I definitely
[00:30:48] wasn't in flow like I am now.
[00:30:51] Now that I'm more in touch with it.
[00:30:53] So I just wanted to take a minute to share that because that might
[00:30:56] actually resonate with some of the women out there that maybe,
[00:31:00] you know, they're leading their life from a place of self
[00:31:03] protection and self preservation and they're presenting
[00:31:07] themselves as a lot tougher and harder than maybe they were
[00:31:10] intended to be, you know, and it does create a level of
[00:31:13] hard in a different way, you know.
[00:31:16] So can you talk a little bit more about what that means
[00:31:19] Dale to like what I just shared with your expand on that when
[00:31:22] we shut down that part of us that is really to be the part
[00:31:26] that we're presenting.
[00:31:28] What that can do to our psyche.
[00:31:31] Yeah, be happy to.
[00:31:33] Well, well, first of all, thanks for sharing a part of
[00:31:37] your story with our audience here today.
[00:31:38] Cause I have no doubt that at the very least there are
[00:31:43] some people that are listening to this episode right now
[00:31:45] that would really resonate with what you just shared,
[00:31:48] Mickey, so way to go for doing that.
[00:31:52] The
[00:31:54] in answering now your question.
[00:31:57] What happens here is if I end up, so to speak, losing myself
[00:32:04] and how I would lose myself in light of this particular
[00:32:07] conversation we're having right now that I would forget
[00:32:11] who what my essence is temporarily.
[00:32:15] So if my essence is really masculine, I would forget
[00:32:17] that my essence is more masculine or it's a balanced
[00:32:21] masculine means got feminine inside of it clearly,
[00:32:25] but it's definitely more masculine and there's a
[00:32:28] strength in that masculine like a real awesome strength
[00:32:31] in that masculine.
[00:32:33] But I've disconnected myself from that.
[00:32:35] So I've lost myself somehow some way through going
[00:32:38] through life or the journey of life and I don't know
[00:32:41] that anymore.
[00:32:42] And so now I start to create some kind of a
[00:32:48] a false shell, a false shell that's made up of both
[00:32:52] masculine and feminine.
[00:32:53] Let's say maybe it leads more towards the feminine
[00:32:56] in this case all as a way to protect myself.
[00:33:00] So while I'm doing all this,
[00:33:03] my my most recent book that came out here in the
[00:33:08] summer of 2022 called Transform Your Destiny.
[00:33:13] So in Transform Your Destiny, there's a number of
[00:33:17] principles that I impart in on the pages that make up
[00:33:21] the book.
[00:33:22] And one of those principles and it's a very
[00:33:24] powerful one is where I break down the difference
[00:33:30] between what I refer to as a lower destiny and
[00:33:34] then a higher destiny.
[00:33:36] So most people when they think of destiny, they
[00:33:39] think it just want it's like it's really like labeled.
[00:33:42] It's labeled.
[00:33:42] It's in one box.
[00:33:44] It's just this way and that's all there is to it.
[00:33:47] As a result of all the work that I've done, not
[00:33:50] just with myself but with many others over the
[00:33:53] decades of teaching and coaching and leading
[00:33:55] people is that what I realized is most people
[00:34:02] are on a path of what again I would refer to as
[00:34:06] lower destiny and they just think that's their
[00:34:10] only destiny.
[00:34:13] And what I've discovered is nothing can be further
[00:34:16] from the truth.
[00:34:19] So to apply that teaching to this conversation
[00:34:22] that we're having right now in this episode, here's
[00:34:26] what that would look like.
[00:34:28] So again, if I go back to this example of say, you
[00:34:33] know, I was to disconnect from my masculine
[00:34:37] essence, forget that that's who I am.
[00:34:41] And then I begin to live in this plastic shell
[00:34:46] of what maybe looks a little bit masculine and
[00:34:49] feminine, leading a little bit more towards the
[00:34:51] feminine because I'm using the shell as a way to
[00:34:53] protect myself because of whatever wounds that
[00:34:57] I'm carrying inside from somewhere in my past
[00:34:59] timeline that I have not yet healed.
[00:35:02] I forget all this, of course.
[00:35:04] I'm now living my life.
[00:35:07] It looks like I'm pursuing my destiny, but my
[00:35:12] destiny in this case is of a lower octave
[00:35:17] because the destiny path or the path of destiny
[00:35:19] that I'm now on is this path where I'm moving
[00:35:23] further and further away from myself.
[00:35:27] If myself is this strong masculine, balanced with
[00:35:33] feminine energy or if my true self is really this
[00:35:38] soft, profound, very powerful, feminine essence
[00:35:43] balanced in with the masculine.
[00:35:47] And I'm moving away, moving away, moving away.
[00:35:51] Then I'm on a path of lower destiny.
[00:35:55] So now it looks like I'm on my path of destiny
[00:35:58] because that's all I know.
[00:36:00] I've moved miles away from myself, my true self,
[00:36:04] my true essence in this way.
[00:36:06] Of course, I don't know I've done this.
[00:36:08] I'm unconscious towards this.
[00:36:10] I'm now on this path of my lower destiny
[00:36:15] implying based on the teachings within
[00:36:18] the book Transform Your Destiny that there's a
[00:36:21] whole another destiny.
[00:36:23] That's awaiting us.
[00:36:26] In this case, to give it a name, I call it the
[00:36:30] higher destiny.
[00:36:32] Now the higher destiny, if we were to apply
[00:36:34] this, what that would mean is somewhere while
[00:36:37] I'm on my path of my lower destiny, something
[00:36:41] happens in my life of a radical nature where
[00:36:46] someone enters into my life, something enters
[00:36:50] into my life or someone and something enters
[00:36:53] into my life that starts to rattle my cage
[00:36:58] in the best of ways.
[00:37:00] In a way that helps me to start to remember
[00:37:05] again, starts this process of remembering
[00:37:08] like who am I really?
[00:37:11] What is my true essence?
[00:37:15] And there's something about this person.
[00:37:17] There's something about this thing.
[00:37:19] We'll call it a program, a course,
[00:37:21] a curriculum.
[00:37:22] There's something about this that speaks to me.
[00:37:27] It resonates with me.
[00:37:28] I don't yet know what it is because I'm still on
[00:37:31] the path of my own lower destiny.
[00:37:33] I don't I've completely forgot that there's
[00:37:35] actually a higher destiny for me.
[00:37:37] There's a greater destiny that's awaiting
[00:37:40] me that quite frankly, I might or might not
[00:37:42] even touch in this lifetime.
[00:37:46] I might not even wake up to this until
[00:37:48] the next lifetime.
[00:37:51] But nonetheless, this person or this thing
[00:37:55] has entered into my life.
[00:37:57] I'm in resonance with this person.
[00:38:00] I'm in resonance with this thing, meaning
[00:38:02] I stay with it.
[00:38:03] And over a short period of time, I start to
[00:38:06] remember.
[00:38:08] I start to remember, wait a minute,
[00:38:10] this is not who I am.
[00:38:13] This person that's in this woman's body
[00:38:17] acting like she's a man or a male.
[00:38:23] Something's off here now all of a sudden
[00:38:25] the thought comes in.
[00:38:26] Something's off.
[00:38:27] I still don't know exactly what it is,
[00:38:30] but I'm starting to realize something's
[00:38:32] off here.
[00:38:35] As long as that resonance holds true
[00:38:37] with whoever this person is, whatever this
[00:38:39] thing was that entered into our life
[00:38:42] that we're in resonance with, that's there
[00:38:44] to help us really break through
[00:38:46] and get to the deeper truth here.
[00:38:50] So then we continue moving down
[00:38:53] this new pathway, so to speak.
[00:38:56] And as we do, at some point
[00:38:59] we begin to remember there is
[00:39:02] a higher destiny for me.
[00:39:04] And that higher destiny is
[00:39:06] different than this path of destiny
[00:39:09] as in this lower destiny that I've
[00:39:10] been on for the last 35 years.
[00:39:15] Well, this gets me a little hopeful,
[00:39:17] it gets me maybe even a little excited
[00:39:18] at this point.
[00:39:20] Still got a ways to go.
[00:39:22] But this is now speaking to me.
[00:39:25] There's something going on here that
[00:39:26] I need to really pay attention to.
[00:39:28] I need to get myself a little more
[00:39:30] involved in, a little more engaged
[00:39:31] in, a little more engrossed with.
[00:39:34] So as I do, then over time
[00:39:37] I begin to realize, oh my gosh,
[00:39:40] this path that I've been on
[00:39:42] really has been a lower
[00:39:44] destiny.
[00:39:46] It's been this path where I've been
[00:39:47] moving away from my true
[00:39:50] essence.
[00:39:53] And at some point of realization
[00:39:56] I decide to shift gears
[00:39:59] and move in a different direction.
[00:40:02] And as I move in this different
[00:40:04] direction, I begin this journey
[00:40:07] of what I refer to and transform
[00:40:09] your destiny again, the book I'm
[00:40:10] eluding to right now.
[00:40:12] In transform your destiny, the
[00:40:14] invite I give the reader
[00:40:15] multiple times throughout the
[00:40:17] chapters of the book is
[00:40:18] to rise up, rise up,
[00:40:21] rise up.
[00:40:23] Reminding the reader
[00:40:26] that there's a greater destiny at
[00:40:28] play here.
[00:40:29] You just perhaps fell asleep.
[00:40:32] You perhaps went unconscious
[00:40:33] towards it and then completely
[00:40:35] forgot that it even exists.
[00:40:38] But as you start to look for it
[00:40:40] remember, seek and
[00:40:42] you shall exactly
[00:40:45] seek and you shall find.
[00:40:48] You shall discover.
[00:40:50] Oh my gosh, I really do have a
[00:40:52] greater destiny.
[00:40:54] And my greater destiny in the
[00:40:56] application of this conversation
[00:40:57] here today would be
[00:41:00] as I start to tap into
[00:41:03] the deeper truth
[00:41:05] that deep inside of me,
[00:41:07] my essence, my true essence
[00:41:10] is more feminine in nature
[00:41:13] or it's more masculine in nature,
[00:41:15] whatever it is.
[00:41:17] And then I begin to move more
[00:41:19] towards that.
[00:41:21] And moving to more moving
[00:41:22] towards that. That's when I
[00:41:23] start to peel away this
[00:41:26] plastic shell.
[00:41:28] That I've created that I've
[00:41:29] built over 35 years of my
[00:41:31] life around myself to keep
[00:41:33] me, keep myself safe from
[00:41:35] something.
[00:41:37] That too becomes a part of
[00:41:38] this process.
[00:41:40] Because once I recognize
[00:41:43] that there really are two types
[00:41:44] of destiny, two pathways.
[00:41:47] There's this lower destiny
[00:41:48] and there's this greater
[00:41:50] destiny and we all have
[00:41:51] it. We all have it.
[00:41:54] And once I recognize this
[00:41:56] and I begin to look in and say,
[00:41:57] whoa, have I been walking
[00:42:00] the path of my lower destiny
[00:42:01] all this time?
[00:42:03] If there's any truth to this,
[00:42:07] do I have a greater destiny?
[00:42:09] And if I do, what might
[00:42:11] happen if I was to literally
[00:42:13] begin to move back towards
[00:42:15] my true essence?
[00:42:16] Whatever that true essence is.
[00:42:19] And as I do that, I'm rising
[00:42:23] up.
[00:42:25] I'm rising up.
[00:42:26] I'm rising up to that of my
[00:42:28] greater destiny.
[00:42:29] I'm rising up to that of my
[00:42:30] higher destiny.
[00:42:32] One of the ways in how you
[00:42:34] can differentiate between
[00:42:35] the lower destiny and a higher
[00:42:37] destiny is to move back
[00:42:39] towards my higher destiny.
[00:42:41] It really has to do with how you
[00:42:42] feel about yourself.
[00:42:45] So when you are on the path
[00:42:48] of your greater destiny,
[00:42:50] you're just you're comfortable
[00:42:51] in your own skin.
[00:42:54] From the bottom of your feet
[00:42:55] to the top of your head,
[00:42:57] every one of your 70 trillion
[00:42:59] cells that make up your physical
[00:43:00] form.
[00:43:02] You're just comfortable.
[00:43:05] In the best of ways.
[00:43:07] You're comfortable with yourself.
[00:43:09] If your true essence is more
[00:43:11] feminine and you start to touch
[00:43:14] that essence and you start to
[00:43:15] embody that essence.
[00:43:17] One of the ways in how you'll
[00:43:18] recognize that you're actually
[00:43:19] doing it, you start.
[00:43:21] You remember that internal
[00:43:22] conflict?
[00:43:23] That internal conflict begins
[00:43:24] to melt.
[00:43:26] It starts to go away.
[00:43:29] Literally, it goes away when
[00:43:31] you're on your path of lower
[00:43:33] destiny.
[00:43:34] This is where conflict and
[00:43:36] confusion and scarcity
[00:43:38] and lack and all those lower
[00:43:40] nature things.
[00:43:41] That's where they exist.
[00:43:43] When you really are on a path
[00:43:46] of your greater destiny,
[00:43:48] when you're on that higher
[00:43:50] octave, you experience
[00:43:52] your life different. It doesn't
[00:43:53] make you better than anybody
[00:43:54] else on the planet, far from
[00:43:56] it. But you do experience
[00:43:58] your life differently and you
[00:44:00] experience it in a way where
[00:44:03] that conflict, that conflict
[00:44:05] is no more.
[00:44:06] Rather, the conflict becomes
[00:44:08] it's replaced with a
[00:44:11] quiet peace.
[00:44:13] It's a peace inside of you
[00:44:17] because now you're on this
[00:44:18] path of your higher destiny
[00:44:20] and in your higher destiny,
[00:44:22] you're finding you're finding
[00:44:23] your true self again.
[00:44:26] And when you find your true
[00:44:28] self and then when you are
[00:44:29] able to become your true
[00:44:30] self, this
[00:44:33] changes everything for the
[00:44:34] better.
[00:44:35] Everything for
[00:44:37] anyone who chooses to
[00:44:39] learn this to be
[00:44:41] reawoken to this.
[00:44:44] It's so incredibly powerful
[00:44:47] in the in the most beautiful
[00:44:48] of ways.
[00:44:50] And it's available to each and
[00:44:51] every one of us because within
[00:44:54] us, these two pillars,
[00:44:56] these two types of destinies
[00:44:57] exist.
[00:44:58] It's this lower destiny
[00:45:02] and then there's this higher
[00:45:03] destiny.
[00:45:05] And ultimately we get to choose.
[00:45:08] We get to choose whether we do
[00:45:09] it in this life or the next.
[00:45:11] We get to choose and eventually
[00:45:13] we will.
[00:45:14] We will choose to
[00:45:16] number one, recognize this
[00:45:19] and then number two, to start
[00:45:20] showing up in a way
[00:45:22] where we begin to
[00:45:25] alter
[00:45:27] our path of trajectory
[00:45:30] literally because
[00:45:33] this rising up process,
[00:45:35] this rising up process, the way
[00:45:37] it works as I spell it out,
[00:45:40] I believe fairly clearly in the
[00:45:41] book.
[00:45:42] This rising up process, once
[00:45:45] you become awake to this,
[00:45:47] you're going to have your first
[00:45:48] experience of what it's like to
[00:45:49] feel yourself
[00:45:52] on your greater destiny, on your
[00:45:53] path of greater destiny.
[00:45:55] Then you'll fall.
[00:45:58] You'll fall and you'll be back
[00:45:59] in your lower destiny.
[00:46:02] And then you'll be in your lower
[00:46:03] destiny for a short little while
[00:46:04] and then something will happen
[00:46:05] again. Once you know what you're
[00:46:07] doing here and you start to move
[00:46:08] in this direction, then you'll
[00:46:10] rise again.
[00:46:12] You'll rise up, you'll touch it.
[00:46:13] You'll get an inkling of it.
[00:46:14] You'll get an experience of it.
[00:46:15] You'll get a feeling that comes
[00:46:16] along with it. It'll be amazing.
[00:46:19] You'll love yourself even more.
[00:46:21] You'll love your world
[00:46:22] even more. You'll have more
[00:46:24] appreciation for everyone in your
[00:46:25] world when this happens.
[00:46:27] But then something happens and
[00:46:29] then you get brought back down
[00:46:30] again. The reason why you're
[00:46:30] being brought back down again
[00:46:32] because what keeps you in your
[00:46:34] lower destiny? Here's one of the
[00:46:36] big questions that gets
[00:46:37] answered multiple times
[00:46:39] throughout the book.
[00:46:41] How is it possible that you could
[00:46:43] rise up to your greater destiny
[00:46:44] and yet still fall back down to
[00:46:46] your lower destiny?
[00:46:49] This is where your work comes
[00:46:51] into play. This is where your
[00:46:53] inner work comes into play.
[00:46:54] This is where the shadow work
[00:46:56] comes into play for real now.
[00:46:58] And when you understand what's
[00:47:00] really going on here
[00:47:02] and how this really works
[00:47:06] and then should you choose to do
[00:47:07] so, you like
[00:47:10] anybody can rise
[00:47:12] up to that of their
[00:47:14] greater destiny and then
[00:47:16] ultimately sustain
[00:47:18] sustain that pathway
[00:47:21] of our greater destiny where
[00:47:22] there's no more following
[00:47:24] following falling down
[00:47:28] to our lower destiny because
[00:47:29] our lower destiny
[00:47:31] has now been transformed
[00:47:34] into our higher destiny.
[00:47:41] Well, Dale, well, that was quite
[00:47:42] the journey from masculine to
[00:47:44] feminine essence and then
[00:47:46] into lower and higher destiny.
[00:47:49] So I just have to say to
[00:47:50] everybody, if you want to be
[00:47:52] more comfortable in your own
[00:47:53] skin like Dale has been
[00:47:54] talking about here today,
[00:47:56] then definitely check out his
[00:47:58] new book, Transform Your
[00:47:59] Destiny, which is available
[00:48:01] on Amazon or wherever
[00:48:03] books are sold.
[00:48:05] I recommend that one.
[00:48:09] I am a testament to that.
[00:48:11] It changes your life.
[00:48:15] Yeah, it's we've now, of course,
[00:48:18] we have a lot of people who
[00:48:19] have had the book.
[00:48:21] The book is pretty deep
[00:48:22] and it's thick and it'll
[00:48:24] take you on an adventure.
[00:48:25] No doubt about it.
[00:48:27] Many people have referred to
[00:48:29] it as two or three books and one.
[00:48:30] That's very true.
[00:48:33] And it's quite the adventure.
[00:48:34] So to take a little while
[00:48:35] to digest it, at least your first
[00:48:37] serving. But we now have people
[00:48:39] who have told us they've now
[00:48:40] read the book from front to back
[00:48:42] two times.
[00:48:44] And we've got a few people that
[00:48:45] have read the book three times.
[00:48:47] And we now even have a couple
[00:48:48] of people that we're aware of
[00:48:50] that have told us they've read
[00:48:51] the book as many as four times
[00:48:53] already.
[00:48:53] Yeah, I think I've got there
[00:48:55] with that one for maybe five
[00:48:56] me and Jesse that worked on
[00:48:58] the book with you.
[00:48:58] We're probably up there.
[00:49:00] Yeah. Well, there's a couple
[00:49:02] there's a couple others beyond
[00:49:03] you and Jesse.
[00:49:04] Jesse's the publisher of the book
[00:49:06] and that are literally
[00:49:09] on their fourth serving.
[00:49:11] They're just again,
[00:49:14] if any of this resonates with you,
[00:49:16] then you'll know what we're talking
[00:49:17] about. Should you be inspired
[00:49:20] to get yourself a copy of the
[00:49:21] book as well and then
[00:49:23] really get into it and
[00:49:25] let yourself go on on an
[00:49:27] adventure.
[00:49:28] And then when you complete the
[00:49:29] book, there is a good
[00:49:31] likelihood you're probably going
[00:49:32] to want to come back to it again,
[00:49:34] maybe a month or two later
[00:49:35] and treat yourself to a second
[00:49:37] serving.
[00:49:38] Absolutely. It changes every time
[00:49:40] and you see yourself in different
[00:49:41] places. It's like, how did I not
[00:49:43] hear this before?
[00:49:43] Wait a minute.
[00:49:44] You know, I've heard this how
[00:49:45] many times now.
[00:49:46] I love listening to the audio book
[00:49:47] in my car, as I've mentioned to
[00:49:48] a lot of people, like I have
[00:49:50] the copy on my nightstand,
[00:49:52] the physical copy.
[00:49:53] But I play that audio in my car
[00:49:55] even on a five or 10 minute trip
[00:49:57] to the store and whatever pops
[00:49:58] up is exactly what I needed to
[00:50:00] hear. And it just like helps me
[00:50:02] not have road rage.
[00:50:03] I just feel so grounded and
[00:50:05] suddenly I have this little
[00:50:07] message for the day for the
[00:50:08] moment that really resonates.
[00:50:11] So I highly recommend even if
[00:50:13] you get physical copy, get the
[00:50:14] audio book too.
[00:50:15] You will be so glad you did.
[00:50:20] Well, this has been really cool.
[00:50:22] I know we started out with just
[00:50:24] some questions on the masculine
[00:50:25] and feminine and what a
[00:50:26] wonderful journey that we went
[00:50:28] on and where we ended up.
[00:50:30] Well, hopefully this answered
[00:50:31] Sharon's question times two.
[00:50:34] I think I would think so.
[00:50:35] I know I'm answering for her, but
[00:50:37] have a feeling it did.
[00:50:40] And Sharon, thank you for sending
[00:50:42] in such a fabulous question that
[00:50:43] got us started into a wonderful
[00:50:46] discussion on the masculine
[00:50:47] and feminine within us.
[00:50:49] Yes.
[00:50:50] Dale, thank you so much as well.
[00:50:52] My pleasure, Mickey.
[00:50:53] My pleasure.
[00:50:54] Thank you again for sharing your
[00:50:56] story there while back as well.
[00:50:58] Absolutely.
[00:50:59] I'm so glad that it helps people.
[00:51:00] I mean, I lived it, but every time
[00:51:02] I hear it, it just also reminds
[00:51:04] me how far I've come.
[00:51:05] So thank you for that acknowledgement
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